Monday, March 11, 2013


Copyright 2013 Addie Hirschten
Oil on Canvas
20" x 30"

Be open to everything and attached to nothing.

Love is always unconditional.  Reliance on someone else to fulfill your happiness is not love. Learn self-reliance and gain the ability to make yourself happy. If you are hunting for "love" with a long list of conditions you will never find it.

If someone wants to change you- they aren't expressing love.
If you want to change someone- you aren't expressing love.
Give without great expectations if you want to find the warmth of acceptance.

It is in giving that we receive.  It is in loving that we are loved...
-St. Francis

Fear holds more people back from love than anything else... fear of loneliness, fear of poverty, fear of judgments, fear of failure.  Years ago I talked to a woman who insisted she wouldn't date anyone who didn't have a credit card.  (So she could spend his money I guess.)  Possessive ownership is not love.  Marking someone as your territory with a ring, showing them off to the world, bragging... this is not love.  Let go of the security blanket of false promises.  Sometimes loving someone means letting them go to move on to their next phase of life.  Enjoy your lover's company now and give them the true acceptance, support and friendship you have been craving.  Let go of your materialistic expectations and give.

Give what you want to receive.  

Can you step back from you own mind and thus understand all things? 
Giving birth and nourishing,
having without possessing,
acting with no expectations,
leading and not trying to control
this is the supreme virtue.
-Lao Tzu


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