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Someone
Copyright 2012 Addie Hirschten
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Despite the fact that I have been married, I recently had a fantasy about writing a book entitled, "The Anti-Marriage Manifesto."
But beyond my urge to complain-meister about marriage, how can I redefine what I want in relationships? What promises do I want to make to my lovers... or expect in return?
How about this...
I promise to be honest.
I promise to be empathetic, to listen.
I promise to drop everything and be there for you if your car breaks down.
How is this different from the way I would treat any other friend? Well, it isn't much different honestly, but there is a closeness that comes with intimacy. There is a bond. That bond doesn't have to be rigid and based on a fear of loneliness or cultural expectations. It embraces. It is forgiving. It is accepting... and gravy is it fun.
When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out.
-Elizabeth Bowen